Meaning of the hadeeth, “Treat women kindly”

 

The hadeeth says, “Treat women kindly, for woman was created from a bent rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is the top part…” Please explain the meaning of this hadeeth, especially the phrase “and the most crooked part of the rib is the top part”.

Praise be to
Allaah.

This is a saheeh hadeeth which was narrated by the two
Shaykhs [al-Bukhaari and Muslim] in al-Saheehayn
from the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), from the hadeeth of Abu
Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him). The Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Treat women kindly,
for woman was created from a bent rib, and the most crooked part of
the rib is the top part, so treat women kindly.” 

This is a command to husbands, fathers, brothers and
others to treat women kindly and not to oppress them; to give them their
rights and to guide them to do good. This is what is obligatory upon
everyone, because the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Treat women kindly.”
This is not altered by the fact that a woman may sometimes mistreat
her husband or relatives with her words or actions, because she was
created from a rib as the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, and the most crooked
part of it is the top. It is well known that the top of it is the part
by which it is attached, so the rib will have some crookedness in it
at that point, as is well known. 

The meaning is that she will inevitably have some crookedness
or shortcomings in her character. Hence it was narrated in another hadeeth
in al-Saheehayn: 

“I have not seen any lacking in rational ability and
failing in religion but (at the same time) robbing the wisdom of the
wise, besides you [women].” 

The
point is that this is the ruling of the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and it is narrated in al-Saheehayn
from the hadeeth of Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with
him). What is meant by lacking in rational ability, as the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, is that the testimony
of two women is equivalent to the testimony of one man. Failing in religion,
as the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, means that women spend
days and nights without praying, i.e., because of menstruation or post-childbirth
bleeding.  This is a shortcoming which Allaah has decreed for them,
and there is no sin on them because of that. 

So
women should accept this in the way that the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) meant it, even if a woman
is knowledgeable and pious, because the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not speak of his own
whims and desires, rather that was a Revelation that was revealed to
him, which he conveyed to the ummah, as Allaah says (interpretation
of the meaning): 

“By the star when it
goes down (or vanishes).

Your companion (Muhammad)
has neither gone astray nor has erred.

Nor does he speak of
(his own) desire.

It is only a Revelation
revealed” [al-Najm 53:1-4]